Tackling Thin Skinned Self Image

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Importance of focus in a crazy environment
I stumbled across the book ‘Psycho Cybernetics’ by Dr Maxwell Maltz. The following paragraph had me awestruck and I kept thinking about it for a long time.
When you habitually personalize every slight, every overheard conversation, even things you read or hear in media, you reveal a very thin-skinned self-image with the weakest of immunities.Be bigger than such things. Have bigger fish to fry, as the saying goes. The person in hot pursuit of meaningful, rewarding goals and a calendar of important things to do has little time to obsess over trivial slights and offenses. Most dumb, insensitive remarks are dumb, insensitive remarks; they have no hidden meaning, and searching for it -- certainly being offended by it -- is an utter waste of time.
Its something I do (can’t say about everybody) and it looks like the author is talking about me. The thin-skinned self image destroys the whole body function and makes it really hard to focus on what matters.
As I discussed in another post, figuring out what matters is also not simple. However even without having any crisp goals to hunt one should stop destroying self-image and as a consequence setting goals would get much needed time slice.
There are many other techniques discussed in the book but this one caught my attention.

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